Watch this video for some advice from someone who’s lived through this stress: Remember, you can be there, but you can’t live someone else’s life, not even for a loved one.

I lived most of my life in Harlem, but now live in Rochester, NY. I have been keeping myself busy by making short documentaries about social issues that usually get overlooked by mainstream America. I have 11 years of experience as a documentary filmmaker and an M.F.A. in media arts production.

I am currently working on “Solutionz,” a one-hour program meant to remind communities that the incarceration of a parent has lasting negative effects on a child. My inspiration came from seeing my son who is currently incarcerated. I would leave the prison after a visit and see the kids break down when they got to the other side of the gate. It’s just heartbreaking to see. It really stuck in my mind, the faces of the kids and how they were the victims. What was their story? What did they do to deserve the heartbreak? It touched me as a filmmaker to find out what is going on with these kids.

I am looking to interview male children between the ages of 7 and 18 who have a parent incarcerated for my documentary. If you would like for your child to participate or if you’re a child who would like to participate, please fill out this form [this information will NOT be shared with anyone else]:

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My plan is to screen “Solutionz” in prisons so that currently incarcerated parents can be more aware of (and thus more prepared for) the emotional and physical status of their children. I have three young women who I have already shot some footage with in Rochester, but no boys at all. I really need males between the ages of 7 and 18. I am also looking for non-profits to sponsor the film and developing a package proposal. I need to have a fundraiser in NYC and Rochester, so I know I need some space.

Well, I put my beans on the table of what I’m doing and why I’m doing what I do. Not for the money, that’s for sure. As an artist, I love filmmaking. I love it even when I’m broke because it makes me whole. Sharing rarely heard stories with others is priceless for me.

If you have any questions, please post them in the comments section below and I’ll get back to you.

I hope to hear from you. Thank you.

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Have you had a family member spend time in prison?

Family Life Behind Bars is seeking two columnists who can produce a twice-monthly video about his or her experience and provide guidance for others in a similar situation.

No prior video experience or equipment is required. The videos would be about 2-3 minutes long. This part time position will not be sufficient to support yourself, but will provide a little extra spending money.

Click here to see some of our prior columns.

To apply for this position, please send a short email to info@livesinfocus.org describing your personal experience and how it affected your life. Also let me know what ideas you have for a column.

And that’s what Hector Martinez, 55, did after being convicted of second-degree murder, robbery and arson in 1984. He thought about the day when he made his way to a drug house in Sunset Park to buy some heroin, the blaze that he was accused of starting and the chaos that ensued.

It was not supposed to be like this. Martinez grew up in a loving family of Puerto Rican descent, imbued by values of family, God and community. He went to church, got a job at a pharmacy and married a nice girl who spoke Spanish. But he had a double life no one knew about and it eventually caught up with him.

“The way I see it, if I would have continued, I would have ended up with AIDS or killed,” says Hector. “Even after all these years in prison, I’m not angry because this what part of God’s plan.”

In prison, Hector threw himself into work and became a health advocate for Spanish-speaking prisoners. Some had AIDS and he worked with nurses and other staff, to make sure patients’ needs were met, from asking for new medication to softer food from the kitchen.

“In 1984, I saw guys drop right and left,” Hector recalls. “But instead of wasting my time playing pea knuckle, card games and basketball, I got involved.”

Hector was released this March and reunited with his family, including wife Dulce of 30 years. But coming back into the world after a 25-year absence, especially during a recession, is far from easy. He hasn’t been able to get work and subsists on odd jobs and help from his brothers and sister.

Still, he counts his blessings.

“I see guys from back in the day and they’re on methodone, they look horrible,” says Hector. “They’re all dying, they’re on some type of cocktails and they have nothing. And I’m thankful that I’m not in their situation. I have my family and a roof over my head. I’m lucky.”

Karina Ioffee is a student at the CUNY Graduate School of Journalism, studying business and broadcasting. For more information, please visit her online at karinaioffee.wordpress.com.

The project was fortunate to receive technical and editorial support from the CUNY Graduate School of Journalism and funding from J-Lab’s New Voices grant (which is supported by the John S. and James L. Knight Foundation). Much of what you see on the site could not have been produced without this support.

The New Voices grant allowed me to purchase equipment that I use in the media training workshops for community members who have been affected by incarceration and to pay the community columnists for their work.

The grant came with a challenge, however. I must raise $5,000 from the public in order to receive the final $5,000 installment from the Knight Foundation.

So I ask you for your generous support. Your donation is tax-deductable.

I must admit that I am not a fundraiser. I am happiest publishing the stories that so many families and individuals have been kind enough to share with us on the site and working with my students who are dedicated to accurately reporting pieces that might help clarify issues around incarceration. But I must also be a fundraiser to be able to continue publishing Family Life Behind Bars.

I know times are tough for everyone because of the free falling economy. But if you have found this site useful and relevant, please consider making a tax-deductible donation. No amount is too small!

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Sandeep Junnarkar
Founder & Editorial Director
Family Life Behind Bars

She grappled with social and emotional isolation, with illness and financial hardship, and she faced the tensions at home that are common between parents and teenagers…but she did so single handedly.

In this segment, Alison describes how she met Jay, how she reacted at his sentencing, and how she struggled to raise their special needs child during his incarceration:

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Jay Coleman Previously in the series: Part I: A long journey from petty criminal to husband and father. Part II: Parenting by phone. Part III: Watching your children grow up from behind prison bars”>video interviews.

President Barack Obama, first lady Michelle, and daughters Malia and Sasha wave to the crowd after his inaugural address Jan. 20, 2009, on the west steps of the U.S. Capitol.

SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS: How do you think President-elect Obama will affect the way you see yourself as a child of an incarcerated parent?

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The show, Brian Lehrer Live, is a cutting-edge program that focuses its lens on conversations on the Web and  beyond:

The show examines the affect that internet has had on our daily lives, from candidates fund-raising online to community groups e-organizing, and we want you to come participate in carving out a niche in how the web affects the news.

Brian also has a fantastic radio show on WNYC (93.9 FM, 820 AM and at WNYC.org) called the Brian Lehrer Show. I know that WNYC has a great lineup of radio shows, but I would continue to support them even if the Brian Lehrer show was the ONLY show on that station.

Take a look at the segment Makeba and I were on:

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The scary thing is that Mr. Jones’s experience is hardly unique but rather is the norm.

SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS: How well do you think the public defender who represented your family member did on the case?

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November 4, 2008–Casimiro Torres, 41, joined millions of Americans today to vote in the general election.  Like many during this historic election, he is voting for the first time.  But unlike most new voters, Mr. Torres is formerly incarcerated.

State by State Voting Rights

Because Mr. Torres completed his entire sentence, under New York State law, his right to vote was restored; parolees are not eligible to vote in New York.  Throughout the country, voting rights vary for those who are imprisoned, paroled, and on probation.  There are only two states that grant inmates the right the vote: Maine and Vermont.  In Kentucky, former prisoners are permanently stripped of their right to vote.

For Abu Bilal Abdur-Rahman, 54, this election isn’t the first time he’s taking part in the process in some way.  As a child of the Civil Rights Movement, the Buffalo, New York native recalls accompanying his mother in 1968 to get others to vote.  Mr. Abdur-Rahman voted for the first time in the February 2008 primary election since his release from prison in 2006.  He says this election will probably be the most important one in his lifetime.

Gary Riley, 51, a former New York prisoner, voted for the first time in the 2004 general election.  While he believes that voting for the first time four years ago helped him in his process of re-joining society, he feels that his presidential choice for the 2008 election has inspired him to continue to give back to society.

Mr. Torres has also used the 2008 election to give back to society.  On the eve of Election Day, he joined his cast mates of “The Castle” at John Jay College of Criminal Justice in New York City for “First Vote”, an event to honor people from every cross section of society who will vote for the first time.  “The Castle”, an Off-Broadway play, recounts the stories of the cast members’ incarceration and what voting means to them.  Of his four cast mates, Mr. Torres is the only one who will be voting in this general election, but that hasn’t stopped the rest of his cast mates from encouraging others to participate in the election.

SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS: Many of people interviewed here feel that not being able to vote because of one’s parolee status is a form of voter disenfranchisement. Do you agree and how has incarceration affected your voice or the voice of a family member as a citizen?

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Djenny Passe-Rodriguez attends the CUNY Graduate School of Journalism. She is a television and radio broadcast student with a focus on health and medicine reporting. She graduates in December, 2008. Some of her work can be seen on her blog.